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People date, they fall in love, get married and live happily ever after. Yes, they can be happy, but they will encounter problems. All problems can be solved and you can keep the spark alive in your love life. It takes work, but who ever said that work has to be hard and arduous. Have fun, be happy and enjoy one another.

A few words about what keeps love on track and couples happy:

Never go to sleep angry or hurt. Make up with words, make up with tears, then make up with passion. Mend emotional fences as they get broken. By doing this you confirm to your partner that you really care how he/she feels.

Say “I love you” every day – in words, gestures or actions and occasionally in surprisingly unexpected ways. Be wild and daring sometimes.

Keep dating. Plan events away from the kids, friends and family where the two of you can share “couple time” doing something fun, interesting or romantic. Pretend you are still dating and you have to impress with your charm, sense of humor, sexy good looks and intelligence.

Dance in the kitchen. Hold hands in the movie. Play in the bedroom. Relationships need a solid foundation. An exclusive, intimate, deep, trusting connection is vital for strength. Like any foundation, it will crumble without care, so work hard to keep the connection healthy.

Share all of you with your partner – every hope, dream, wish, doubt and misery. Do not recount only the events of your day, confide the secrets in your heart.

Laughter is essential for good physical health and acts like glue in a relationship. It helps when times are bad (and there will be bad times), and it makes good times better. Stick a note in a shoe. Phone with a joke. Tell a funny story. Tack this to the fridge.

Forgive then forget.

Compromise without rancor. Find a middle ground where you can. If you cannot and it is not life and death, give in. It doesn’t show weakness, it proves strength.

Fight fairly. Never be nasty, mean, cruel or physical.

Consider that there are few traits that may send you directly to a marriage counselor if you see them in yourself or your partner. Defensiveness, lying, stonewalling, criticism and contempt are (some) signs that your relationship is in serious trouble. Get help or start saving for lawyers.

Plan to care for your partner when you are gone. Get life insurance, make a will and write down or discuss your wishes – in detail. This seems basic, but the unexpected death of a family member a few months ago serves to remind me of just how important it is.

And lastly… give your love an extra kiss today and think about doing a little something special for them. It certainly won’t hurt, and it may make the most important person in your life smile. What could be better?

Love has many faces and forms, from that of a parent for a child or love of friends and family, to romantic love. Plus another that underlies all the rest that we may not even recognize. One that supports all other kinds of love, is the source of all love, and one we find at the heart of every relationship. That is Divine Love.

Divine Love is no abstract concept. On the contrary. Divine Love is reality here and now. Whether you believe only in Jesus as Christ, or only God, Yahweh, or Lord Shiva, the only things stopping you from experiencing it yourself are your own limited thinking and a closed, life-weary heart.

Can we experience it? How? Why would we want to? And why are so many of us stopping it when we want it so much?

Can you experience it? Absolutely. We all have the ability built into our systems. How? There are many paths, some more effective than others, some that resonate more within your heart than your neighbor’s. Regardless of which path you choose, the tips in this article will help you start or progress further on your way.

Not everyone is interested, but if you do want to experience Divine Love perhaps you: 1) want to be closer to God; 2) think there is something missing in your life, the “more” you’ve always hoped for; 3) or maybe you’ve read, intellectually know, or believe we are all Divine, but it sure doesn’t feel like it most of the time!

You’re far from alone in your quest. Individuals through the centuries have sought God, both collectively, and in solitude.

The whole aim of life is to bring us closer to God. This is a Truth. Sages have said throughout time that we are all One, all this is That, and we are all part of the Divine, etc. Do you believe it, or want very badly to believe? Belief is more difficult when we only parrot the words, even if we know intellectually that they must be true. What’s missing is the true experience, the inner certainty of Divine Love.

Think of Divine Love as a huge reservoir. It feeds into many smaller ponds and streams, some made by nature, others dug and formed by our own intentions. The reservoir never runs dry, but sometimes dams, landslides, or other acts of nature (or man) can block the flow and the love in that particular stream becomes isolated. We forget there was an abundant source feeding it, and begin to see limitations and boundaries where there were none. Then we have trouble in paradise.

This is the answer to another question: why, if you really want to experience it are you stopping it? You may not intend to put up blocks, but they nonetheless go up as you experience life.

All of us have known the surety of Divine Love at birth (whether or not we remember), and unless something happens to change our loving circumstances, that remembrance of Divine Love flows within each of us. The flow moves from us to our parents, and just as the law of physics states, “An object in motion remains in motion until acted upon by an outside force” so goes the flow. It keeps moving from us to others and would continue unimpeded throughout our lives unless something happened to stop it. In an ideal world all children would experience the security of the certainty of parents’ love and know, in their hearts that this is a given—deserved and expected.

But when your kindergarten crush doesn’t respond in kind, the heart is hurt. You withdraw just a little, to keep from being hurt again. That’s a block. When a friend betrays a secret, your trust is shaken, and you grow wary. When your significant other wants space or wants out, you are devastated. The flow of love has been constricted, and must work to forge new paths so it can flow again. With so much twisting of the flow of love, the source is cut off from the smaller avenues.

The good news: No matter how convoluted your path has been, no matter how far from Divine Love you’ve come, you can re-connect. The first step is incredibly simple: ask for Divine help. ASK FOR DIVINE HELP. It’s simple, but powerful. Don’t worry about the proper words, the proper time or place. Just ask. You may want to merge with the flow of Love, but the Divine wants it for you even more. But the Divine can’t act until you ask for help. Ask. Answers may not come right away, but your prayer has been heard and forces are already at work to help you. Answers may not come in the way you expect, but the Divine has a broader vision than you do. Trust.

There is more you can do. More than living a compassionate life and giving all you can (even if you don’t feel like it). Try this spiritual exercise:

Sit quietly and let your attention go to the area of the heart. Not the actual organ. Some call it the Heart Chakra, others the heart center. Simply feel that area and intend to open the heart. Maybe you will feel something, a physical sensation, an emotion, or nothing at all. Let the attention be easy. Don’t try to feel anything. Just have the intention to open the heart. Visualize it, if you can, as a flower bud opening, petal by petal, as an ever-widening circle, rippling outward, or imagine physical bonds around your heart that loosen and fall away. Once you’ve opened, ask that Divine Love flow into your heart. Then accept it.

Five minutes is enough to start. If that feels like too much, start with ten seconds, and work your way up over the next week or two. Repeat the process a couple times a day, and allow whatever happens to unfold. The more you do it, the greater the results. Give it time. Some of those blocks keeping us from experiencing Divine Love are big and ungainly.

There are other things you can do as well. Find a mentor, a spiritual teacher who not only has experienced that Divine Love herself, but one who can teach you how. The two don’t always go together.

A word about the Divine. Some lump spirit guides in with God and His helpers. But not all spirit guides are Divine. There are many other beings, some good, some not so good, that can influence us. A spirit could attach themselves to us and give advice freely, but if the spirit is not Divine, their advice is not always beneficial. The spirit of one who is not particularly highly evolved cannot help you to evolve.

Once you have reconnected with the source of Divine Love you will find that all other love is enhanced, a reflection of that higher love. Look at your sweetheart, at your child, etc. and experience any limiting factors fading. Where you once had a large pond of clear water (love) to give, now you do not just love from your own small heart anymore. The container that holds your love has opened to an infinite source, and the power behind your love is being continually renewed from the sweet, deep ocean of Divine Love within your own large Heart.

The overall reason people stay in relationships that just aren’t working is because of fear of being alone. Many people are basically considered “walking dead” when it comes to being in a relationship that has no merit of making it. Gabby Love at http://www.gabbylove.com offers many key warning signs that a relationship is on the brink of failure and it’s time to move on.

A. Fighting for no reason at all. When you start fighting over petty points that seem to blow out of proportion, i.e. leaving the toilet seat up is a favorite. The man being used to living his whole life on his own all of a sudden is considered inconsiderate and uncaring by the woman if the toilet seat is left up.

B. Showing little or no affection. It’s funny how this is such a gray
area that can break up a relationship because it’s usually determined by the disgruntled party. What is really too much or too little?

C. The dreaded friends of the disgruntled party take center stage. Remember how excited you were when you first met and that special person was considered your true “soul mate” ? Now the meeting of disgruntled friends opinion appears center stage for discussion in your relationship.

D. If there was sexual involvement in the relationship it basically has been stopped or so mundane that you can’t wait until you are through. To me this is the real sign it’s over. Sex should be considered 90% mental and 10% physical.

E. Conversation in a relationship has become null and void. Remember the long hours on the phone and in person talking about everything? Now you can barely say one word to each other.

F. Finding your focus shifted to others instead of the one you are with. Remember sitting at a table and gazing into each others eyes when you first started dating? Now you look elsewhere instead of with the one you are with.

G. Finding excuses to not be together alone is becoming more evident. One of the favorite cop outs is work. Always working late becomes a popular tool because the other party can say they are too tired to get together.

H. Vacations are spent apart. Let’s not forget the movie “How Stella Got Her Groove Back.” Vacations apart are meant as a reason to explore new potential recruits. If your mate says they are going to a particular romantic getaway spot by themselves or with friends….boy… the signs are on the wall! It’s over!

The above are just a few key points to look out for in a relationship that is going bad. Always remember a healthy relationship should be uplifting and positive.

Dating can be a minefield, no matter how old or young we are. First dates can be stressful for teenagers or for divorcees who haven’t dated for twenty years. My advice on dating is borne from experience. You learn from mistakes. No matter how you cut the deck, there has to be a first date. Of course, you may have known someone for a long time beforehand and been friends which should ease the tension.

Let us suppose you don’t know each other very well. The fun of dating is learning about each other, peeling away the layers and discovering all those wonderful quirks and traits. You are excited, nervous but in a good way. Dress smart casual, don’t overdo it. Dutch courage is ok but in moderation, turning up tipsy won’t make a good impression. My advice on dating for men is, don’t be afraid of corny gestures. As a woman, I never believe another woman who says she doesn’t like receiving flowers. She’s kidding herself.

Whoever arranges the date, and let’s face it, it’s still usually the man, must organize it to go smoothly. Don’t make it up as you go along. Spontaneous diverting from the plan is fine but that there has to be a plan in the first place. It’s no use rocking up to an exclusive restaurant without booking a table. My advice on dating is to keep the first few dates simple anyway, there’s no need to put pressure on yourselves. I always give advice on dating for the first occasion to be a lunch date. There’s something more relaxing about it. It’s like a semi date and easier to walk away from if you don’t hit it off.

Everyone worries about what to talk about on dates. There are some rules I would stipulate for advice on dating. Remember to listen and show you’re interested in what your date has to say. Show this by asking questions. When it’s time to talk about you, it’s not required that you give your entire life story. A brief synopsis will do, and if you can punctuate it with amusing anecdotes then all the better. No risque jokes though.

Many people, especially those who have gone through a divorce and been off the dating carousal for a while, use the services of a dating agency. I wouldn’t knock them as long as you don’t build your hopes too high. Mr. or Miss Perfect may be on their files, but they might not. Why we click with certain people can’t be defined and bottled. We are into the mysterious world of sexual chemistry here. The files will match you up to people with similar interests and background, but what about opposites attracting? It’s really not a science. The dating agency will give advice on dating, as far as staying safe is concerned. They vet their clients as best they can but it’s advisable to meet in a public place.

A recent trend has been speed dating sessions. You have five minutes to chat and decide if you’re interested or not. It’s not long but at least you don’t get lumbered with someone with a personality bypass. It could be fun and remember that fun should be the buzz word concerning advice on dating here. Don’t be too intense when you’re out there. If you have I need a soul mate stamped on your forehead, you’ll scare everybody away.

By Gabriel Aragon

Meeting Women Can Be A Full-Time Job

When you are single, meeting women can sometimes get to the level of being a “full-time job” for most men. Going out night after night, bar after bar, but still face rejection after rejection. Life can really suck!

This frustration builds up in time and people around you will sense that, especially women. I have always said in my articles that you project your attitude to the world at all times and I will never stop repeating that. I always hope that the next guy who reads one of my rants would finally get it. If you look angry, bored, and frustrated, people are not going to want to be around you. No one would. Emotions are contagious and you will drag them down into your mood.

Forget About Meeting Women

The next time you go out, completely forget your need to meet women. Erase it from your mind. Be free with that thought for one night. Go out with your friends and enjoy the night. Put yourself in a position where you can enjoy yourself whether you meet a woman or not. If you are doing something you enjoy, you will feel good, and it will not seem that you are working your ass out to feel good and positive. It will come out naturally and you will be able to carry those positive feelings wherever you go.

Why The Fun-Factor Is Important

Remember this, a guy who is having fun looks naturally more attractive to women than some good looking guy who is not having fun at all. Women are very receptive to emotions and they will mirror whatever emotion is presented before them. When you are having fun and the positive energy is flowing around you, women will be drawn to you, because that is a pleasurable energy as opposed to being angry and nervous. Anger and other negative emotions push women and people away. Keep in mind to always to always do the things that you really enjoy and have fun doing it. Eventually, women will come around and before you know it, you will start to meet beautiful and attractive women through the use of just one happy thought.

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